I do like debating (no energy for arguing though).

My thought is that as a parent, our attachments to the outcomes of our children hold us both back.

Of course we love our children. And we want the best for them. As a parent there is a fine line though between launching them as independent beings and projecting our own expectations onto them.

My point about your parents is to point out that you are living your own life independent of them and their expectations (dreams?) of/for you. You now being free of those is what we can only wish for for our own.

In the end, I liked your article but found myself with an allergic reaction to your use of the word “must” and the opening of "...what I want her life to be like."

Hey, you did suggest your opinion might be "unpopular" in your headline, so please be open to those who offer challenges. But, to the extent I misinterpreted, sorry for that.